We all matter
Long time no see.
The BF and I are now houseowners and spend most of our non-working life painting, building, ripping down, etc etc etc - we're almost straight!
Anyway - as a break from such macho activities - a bunch of us hit the scene last night. A new mate came along with us. He's only recently come out, and we have the priviledge of being the first mates he's made who are gay and out.
We had a fab time - and it was great to be told by a mutual friend about how relaxed and peaceful and at ease with himself our new mate is these days....since he came out and has met gay guys who do the ironing and drink beer and pay mortgages etc, and can be himself with all his friends.
It reminded me about how important we all are to each other, and how we continue to be so. It reminded me of how when I came out to my mum and dad, my dad's first words were "That sounds like a cue for a hug". How when I told my brother over a beer his first word was "Cool!"!! How Su and I would judge men according to cake flavour as we walked round Tesco's (mmmm - yummy chocolate cake!. How Mark took me by surprise! How mates stand by us and keep us all going (gay or straight). How straight folk in the Church are daring to stand by us gay folk in the Church (Cheers all at OCICBW!).
We all matter to each other.
I remember my dad worrying that he was somehow responsible for me being gay - not cos he thought it was wrong but cos he might have been able to avoid risking me being subject to homophobia. I reminded him that what he did make me was strong and loved enough to be able to cope with homophobia etc.....
We all matter to each other. we're meant to be that way.
So for all you folk a little song:
And for the guys I drank beer with and danced like a madman last night:
The BF and I are now houseowners and spend most of our non-working life painting, building, ripping down, etc etc etc - we're almost straight!
Anyway - as a break from such macho activities - a bunch of us hit the scene last night. A new mate came along with us. He's only recently come out, and we have the priviledge of being the first mates he's made who are gay and out.
We had a fab time - and it was great to be told by a mutual friend about how relaxed and peaceful and at ease with himself our new mate is these days....since he came out and has met gay guys who do the ironing and drink beer and pay mortgages etc, and can be himself with all his friends.
It reminded me about how important we all are to each other, and how we continue to be so. It reminded me of how when I came out to my mum and dad, my dad's first words were "That sounds like a cue for a hug". How when I told my brother over a beer his first word was "Cool!"!! How Su and I would judge men according to cake flavour as we walked round Tesco's (mmmm - yummy chocolate cake!. How Mark took me by surprise! How mates stand by us and keep us all going (gay or straight). How straight folk in the Church are daring to stand by us gay folk in the Church (Cheers all at OCICBW!).
We all matter to each other.
I remember my dad worrying that he was somehow responsible for me being gay - not cos he thought it was wrong but cos he might have been able to avoid risking me being subject to homophobia. I reminded him that what he did make me was strong and loved enough to be able to cope with homophobia etc.....
We all matter to each other. we're meant to be that way.
So for all you folk a little song:
And for the guys I drank beer with and danced like a madman last night:
Labels: Coming Out, Friends, Gay
posted by Freedom Bound at
3:39 PM
1 Comments:
oh my god that second video is just disturbing. Of course I had to email the link to a bunch of friends just so they could suffer through it, too!
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Dennis, at 7:30 AM
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